Okay so lets see...I am still tired...maybe I will always be tired!! Anyway, this morning started off with a lesson in the word "No." Erika likes to throw her food on the floor. Sometimes it is when she is finished and sometimes it is for no reason at all. She always looks at me before she does it. I have been really tolerant for many months already with her throwing the food on the floor and cleaning the floor three times a day. I have tried saying no and telling her that it is bad before but it doesn't change her behavior. Today I looked at her as she was about to do it and I said "no." She looked at me and did it anyway. I went over to her hand and gave it a light slap and said to her a little louder "Mommy said NO." Well then it became heart breaking for me!! She looked at me as her eyes started to fill up with tears and she was holding in crying. Her lips turned to a frown. Then I said to her "Mommy loves you Erika, I just don't want food on the floor." And then she let it all out and started SOBBING...trying to catch her breath. It was so hard and I felt terrible. I had to keep telling her she is okay and she is good and that I love her.
She reminds me so much of me when I was a child. So beyond sensitive. My poor baby. I don't want her to feel how I felt. It is very difficult to go through life so so so sensitive. She is definitely a child who wants to please everyone and share everything too. Anyway, there was no more food dropped today at breakfast, lunch or dinner. Although she almost dropped her ice pop at dinner and I said no...and she started the whole crying thing again but recovered much quicker this time. It is so hard knowing I made her sad but I want her to grow up to be a good person too.
In the afternoon we went with Michelle and Isabelle to play group. I knew most of the mommy's there. They are all Michelle's friends and I have met them at various gatherings. Erika did great! She was a bit shy at first but after about 10 minutes she warmed right up and fit in fine. In the picture above she is riding one of the little boys tractors! I was proud with how well she adjusted to the environment.
Gee...and look at me...look at how well I adjusted!!! LOL Do I look like I am in my glory? I was! Awww...so cute and that is all I am going to say about that! At play group there were all kids older than Erika except for the newborn I am holding. Erika and Isabelle are two of the few girls that were there. There was one other girl but she came later and was older. Erika was very entertained and at ease.
Michelle had to care for the children...I had my arms full with a newborn! Erika has not been very good at going to sleep at night the past few nights. Tonight we didn't get her to sleep till 10:00! She just cries and cries so eventually we take her out and let her spend some energy! I was very surprised tonight because she didn't even take her afternoon nap! I wish I could say she is sleeping later in the morning but she isn't! Anyway, here are a few videos of Erika from today.
okay...it is taking forever for the videos to upload so I will finish in the morning! Too tired!
1 comment:
It is so hard to see your child react like that but don't feel bad. We do that around here the same way. I was told they learn boundaries and what pushes your button and what they can get away with even if the cognitive complete thought they did something wrong isn't there yet. As long as you stick with the same kind of restrictions they will do okay. Again, I know it is uber hard to see them cry but they will be just fine.
Damiane'
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